Tag Archive | mental-health

Make Your Haters Jealous

It’s almost funny to me how all these poster quotes seem to talk to me now. I have hidden in my shell for so long I shut everything out. When I decided to start making changes in my life to better me I was scared to death how people would react. I didn’t want to upset the balance. Everyone else seemed to be happy, but me. Who did I think I was to start changing things and upsetting everybody else’s life? Who was I to think I was important enough to matter? Who was I to spend so much time on myself when so many others needed me? These are the questions I used to give myself permission not to change. These questions gave me permission to wrap my feelings, wants, desires, back up into their pretty little box and shove them back into the corner of my mind to be forgotten. I claimed it was for everyone else. HA!!

Now I look back and think to myself how freaking selfish I was. Really! How selfish is it not to give your best to the people you love, who love you. To allow them to watch you suffer silently. You may think they don’t see your pain but they do and they hurt with you. They make decisions because of it. They tip toe around conversations because of it. They cry for you.  Why? Because they love you.

When we are going through this struggle with ourselves, this war of self-pity and lack of self-worth we can’t view life as it truly is. We can’t see people for who they really are. We can’t see ourselves for who we really are. Everything is tainted by how we feel about ourselves. When we look at people, their lives, their health, their bodies, their families, ect.. our view is distorted because of the way we see ourselves. Being able to see the world in truth means we must heal first ourselves. To be able to love completely, we have to first learn to love ourselves. To be able to take care of others, we have to first learn to take care of ourselves.

Our lives are our own, our reality in life is based on our choices. We have the power to change our reality, to stop distorting the picture and to see it clearly for what it is. I was always to scared, but not anymore. We have to break free of the fear, step out in faith, and give ourselves completely to the life we deserve. Give our enemies a reason to be jealous instead of a reason to laugh, give our supporters something to brag about, but most importantly give ourselves the gift of our true self.

I’m done making excuses, lying to myself, accepting less than I’m worth. I’m done letting fear control me. What about you? Are you ready to take control back? Are you ready to finally live the life you were meant to live? I am and I would love company along the way. 🙂


Exercise, Eat, Ignore, You are worthy!

   I think often times we confuse why we need to exercise and eat right. We look in the mirror and don’t like the image we see looking back and we think LORD HELP ME! Then the next day our husband, child, boyfriend, whomever it is says something about our weight and we want to cry inside. We think to ourselves, “Don’t they get it? Don’t they see I’ve tried?” Then we start beating ourselves up and we begin the process of trying to lose weight to make them happy and so that you don’t feel like crying when looking in the mirror.

What I’m realizing more and more though is that we can’t lose and keep it off because someone else is not satisfied with us and honestly we may not even be able to do it because we aren’t satisfied with us. What I believe to be true is that there is a root cause to why we allow ourselves to get to this point. What is your WHY? Is it a fear? Do you think you are protecting yourself somehow? Did something happen to you? Question yourself. What is the root?

I firmly believe that we can easily get a temporary fix lose a little gain a little lose some more. However in order to break free of the bondage we continuously allow ourselves to sleep in we have to face our demons, whatever they may be.

We have to heal ourselves on the inside first, so that when we exercise its for the right reasons. We want to be happy, to live a long life, to see our grandchildren grow up, we want to be healthy. The same goes with eating, we have to understand the relationship that food is supposed to have with us. Food was designed to sustain us, to nourish our body it was not meant to be gorged on, to be processed and covered in chemicals. Food is what is supposed to keep us alive not kill us. What is your relationship with food? Is it your comforter? Do you feel like it’s the only thing you have control of, hence you will do what you want? Is it your time killer? To begin to eat right, we have to view food as what it is, a healthy sustainable way to stay alive if used properly.

Identifying  these things in our lives and putting them in the right perspective is only part of it. We also have to be able to ignore those people who will try to tear us down. We have to let go of those people in our lives that stuff our pockets with rocks to weigh us down. We have to dump the poisons from our lives. That may seem harsh but it is fact. Miserable people don’t want  you to succeed they want you to stay miserable with them. They don’t want to be alone. But you, you have to say enough is enough I will not allow you to keep me in the same spot any longer. I am strong! I am capable! I can do it! And then you have to kick all those naysayers out of your life and put a sign up on your front door that reads “NO ENERGY SUCKING VAMPIRES WELCOME!

Lastly, but I think most importantly, you have to realize you are worth it. You were created from greatness, for greatness! One of my favorite quotes is from Max Lucado, “You aren’t an accident. You weren’t mass-produced. You aren’t an assembly line product. You were deliberately planned, specifically gifted, and lovingly positioned on the earth by the Master Craftsman.” I want to cry just thinking about how special each one of us is. Do you realize how special you are? God made you deliberately, He was intentional in creating you. Can you close your eyes and just envision the love, the tenderness, it took to mold each one of us, uniquely made, divinely created, each of us made for a specific purpose. Wow!

We must not just know that people think we are worthy, we must believe we are worthy. We are worthy of change! Worthy of love! Worthy of health! Worthy of success! Worthy of happiness! Worthy of being treated with respect! Worthy of a life lived to its fullest! WE ARE WORTHY!!!

Now with all that said, I completely believe (although I am not a doctor) that if we put these things into practice if we look at the entire picture and not just bits and pieces of it, we will finally see the change we have longed for, for so long.

So hang in there! It’s not an easy road, we have to break strongholds, we have to tear down walls, and in doing so we are going to hit some road blocks. When we do we have to face them, and press through. We will survive the journey and the best thing is we are not alone, we have each other. xoxoxo